You read it. Nursery rhymes LIE.
What was it we heard when we were kids? “Sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me?” I’m sure there is a lesson in that and the meaning wasn’t literal because IT. IS. A. LIE. A lie.
Think back in your history to the actions of others that hurt you the most. I think we can all remember how we felt when our parent/sibling/spouse/significant other etc… uttered some horribly nasty words to us. Hopefully they asked for forgiveness and maybe we found it in our hearts to forgive (or at least set boundaries and move on). But said with enough venom or regularity and those words hurt. Hurt like hell. And they stick with us. They shape us in one way or another. Maybe we move on (with or without you) and are able to (mostly) quiet those voices, those words. But, they come back during our most vulnerable times. And they still hurt.
So, if you are someone who uses words as a weapon or to purge frustration or for whatever excuse you have or need, stop it. Words hurt. Don’t use them as weapons. Be a better person. And, if you have been hurt over and over again by nasty words….please realize that is on them. NOT YOU. It is a failing of the person spewing that garbage. It’s not a reflection of you.
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